An unplanned pregnancy can be tough for birth mothers. There are undoubtedly hundreds of questions running through their minds at any given time. And some of them may be centered around one topic in particular – adoption. How do you… Read More

I am Dean Kirschner. Why "Libby's Corner?" This blog, actually, all of Adoption Makes Family, is a tribute to my mother who brought adoption to our family in 1956 when my older sister was adopted.
When my mother died in 1967, she left a legacy of love for children that transcended any biological connection. Having been only 8 years old at the time of her death, I do not recall hearing specific words about adoption from my mother. However, through the years, having many conversations with her friends and our family, I have learned so much about my mother's feelings toward children, toward adoption.
Personally, the experience of adoption has been in my life since my own birth. I'm the little brother of an older sister who was adopted at birth. Adoption was never a big deal in our family. We were all treated the same. Biologically conceived by our parents or adopted, there was never a sense for me that we were loved any differently.
I remember at my first home study meeting in preparation to adopt my first son. The social worker asked if I had any personal experience with adoption. My first reaction was a sense of connection. I lived with adoption all my life. I embrace adoption. Now, I am the father of two boys, both adopted.
Every day I realize how much I love my sons. I laugh with my sons. I play with my sons. I parent my sons. Some days there are frustrations. More days, there are fun and joyful times with my sons. Some days, I have had to be a disciplinarian. More days, I am the supporter, the advocate, the fixer, the helper, the confidant, the teacher, the guide, the safety net, the protector. To sum it up, I'm Dad.
My sons are adopted, yet we don't hold that term as a distinction of difference. We celebrate adoption as a means by which I became Dad and they became my children. When I introduce my sons, I introduce them as my sons. Introduce my sister as my sister. The stories of how we became a family are amazingly wonderful. We share our adoption stories proudly. The adoption stories speak to the excitement of becoming a sister, a brother, a son, a grandson, a cousin, a nephew.
I have spoken with my sister and my sons about their feelings about their birth parents and the adoption. No one has forgotten that they were adopted, because adoption is an open conversation in our family. However, there is no angst about adoption. We answer questions honestly and allow complete and open discussions about birth parents and their adoption story. There are no mysteries or secrets. There are stories of love, excitement and family.
As for how we get along as siblings, my sister and I have our disagreements. More often, we have our agreements. We have fought, loved, laughed, played. We are just normal siblings. I don't feel adoption plays into our relationship. We have had wonderful discussions about adoption and birth parents. However, when it comes down to just being brother and sister, we are just that. Brother and sister. My sister has actively reached out and chatted with birth mothers who have created an adoption plan with Adoption Makes Family.
My sons have the same type of relationship. They love like brothers. They fight like brothers. They protect each other and look out for each other. They are not biologically related. They are related through adoption. But, above all, they are brothers.
And so, I turn back to my mother, Libby. I learned from my mother the unconditional love for children. Starting in her own little corner of our family, she shaped me, my sister, my sons and our world. Hopefully, this blog, Libby's Corner, can do the same for you.
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Same-Sex Adoption
Today, 19 percent of same-sex couples raising children have at least one adopted child, writes Asher Fogle, Good Housekeeping. This is up from just 8 percent in 2000. Same-sex adoption is on the rise, but there are still numerous hurdles… Read More
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Maintaining a Strong Relationship with Your Spouse or Partner
Growing your family can be a stressful time for you and your spouse or partner. Shifting schedules, a lack of sleep, and increased responsibilities can be taxing even on the healthiest of relationships. And adoption is no different. “No doubt… Read More
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Preparing for an Open Adoption – An Adoptive Parents Guide
Today, there is less of a stigma around adoption than ever before. As a result, we’re seeing increases in all types of adoptions, including open adoption, transracial domestic adoption, adoption by LGBT couples, and single-parent adoptions, says Asher Fogle, Good… Read More
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How Much Does Adoption Cost in Maryland?
Perhaps the biggest question on any prospective parent’s mind is “How much does adoption cost?” It’s true, adoption is not cheap. Check out our previous blog post, Saving for Adoption in Maryland, so some helpful ways to help fund your… Read More
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Benefits of a Local Maryland Adoption Agency
When it comes time to choose an adoption agency, you have a lot of options. “There are lots of agencies to choose from all over the country,” says Jessie McNaughton, Family Connections, Inc. So, how do you know which agency… Read More
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Multiracial Adoption
Multiracial adoption, also known as transracial adoption or interracial adoption, is when parents adopt a child of a different race. Today, more than 40 percent of adoptions are multiracial in nature, according to a survey conducted by the Department of… Read More
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Same-Sex Adoption Statistics (LGBTQ Adoption Facts)
Approximately 4.3% of adults in the United States identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or queer (LGBTQ) – meaning there are 10.7 million LGBTQ adults in the U.S. (Romero 2017; Gallup Poll 2017). And, as we mentioned in a recent… Read More
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Why Do You Want to Adopt? What’s Your Parenting Fantasy?
Before beginning the adoption process, it is important for any prospective parents to explore their feelings and really analyze why they want to adopt. “What’s your fantasy,” asks Dean Kirschner, Ph.D., LCSW-C, Adoption Makes Family. Basically, what does parenting look… Read More
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Preparing for an Adoption Home Study
A home study is an incredibly important part of the adoption process. It can also be incredibly stressful for the prospective adoptive family involved, says Julia K. Porter, Family Handyman. A social worker will visit the family’s home, interview family… Read More